Break ups are never easy. Sometimes there are situations, wrong timing, wrong decisions or simply us behind breaking down our relation. Toughest part of break ups is to survive the pain; you are going through. Here are top ten things that you should do in this ugly phase of your life.
10. Realize Your Break up
It is important to realize that your relation is finally over. It is hard to believe that the relation you started with lots of hope and to which gave your best ended eventually. There do are chances, people come back together again after realizing their mistake. Let this happens to you but don`t wait for it.
9. Don’t Self Medicate
Sometimes this depression emerges out in the form of low BP, fever, body aches, restlessness, sleeplessness etc. Consult a doctor first if you experience any unusual change.
8. Don`t Contact your ex
You are only liable to share your feelings when you are in a relationship with the person. But when it is over, the person is someone who does not exist in your life. He is not the one to be told your miseries any more, even if he cares. There would be many unasked question and unspoken words left but the time limit has gone for it. Think of all the selfish, cruel and rude things he had done to you. Tell yourself he would never have done if he really cared for you.
7. Remove all the Things Related to Your ex
Give away all the things that remind you of your ex. Hide all the photos, gifts and his belongings out of sight so they will be out of mind. If it was the room you were living in together, change its setting and paint color. Put away the things he liked and replace it with new ones. Visit all the places that you planned to go with your ex. If you are in the same office and resigning for the job is just not possible for you, keep yourself busy in work and play games on your mobile in free times.
6. Don`t Stop Caring for Yourself
We need our loved ones to give us an extra care during our hard times. Same formula applies here. You love yourself and this is a hard time, so pamper yourself. Go for shopping, put on your favorite clothes, have a haircut, and try to look adorable. Indulge yourself in some physical activities and outing. Go to a gym and eat well. Heart break is not a joke.
5. Relax Yourself
Keep yourself busy in doing things that relax. Praying, yoga, body massage or a hot bath daily helps. Do all the fun things you always wanted. Watch good movies. Read bestseller books of your interest. Express yourself in adopting a form of fine arts. Start learning a foreign language. Spend time with your family and friends. It’s never time but love that heals all wounds.
4. Give Time to Yourself
Spend time with you. You are the most sincere person with your feelings. Take a break from your usual work. Go out in a changed and relaxed environment. Think of the situation, think of a way out and about your future. Break ups are the time when many negative thoughts come your way. This break up won`t do any damage to your life if you bear it with a positive attitude. You are deserved to be loved and you will get it in your life by any unexpected mean. Be ready to embrace the upcoming love with open hands. It’s better to get rid of your rage rather than prolonging it with making plans of revenge. Feelings of not falling for a relationship or think that you can never feel love for anyone again are a punishment you give to yourself. A heart break shatters your trust and faith in people that at times you are afraid of falling for a long relation. You have just one life. Make it worth living with beautiful relations and worthy people.
3. Talk to Your Friends
Talk about your relation and feelings with your close friends who really care. There can be a time when they are tired of listening to your grief. But what are friends for!!! If you have no friends write down each and every detail of your feelings in a diary. But never be with someone who reminds you that you had been a fool by being with a wrong person.
Sob alone. Weep as much as you can to get rid of the pain you are going through. If you are a guy, weeping over a girl will not make you less to a man. This is important if you don’t want your heartbreak feelings haunt you all your life. Don`t hold anything inside. It can affect your future relationships. May be you get lucky enough to meet the right person in future but you had not overcome your feelings of the previous tragedy. There are fair chances of losing him. You screw your own life by giving importance to those who do not deserve but not to those who deserve.
1. Be Strong and Move on
Remind yourself that you are strong enough to stand this pain. Don’t rush to a new relation too soon before getting over of the pain caused by your break up. It is unfair with the next person to come in your life, if he/she has to share you with miseries of your past love affair. It is unjust to punish someone else for your loss. If you feel you are ready, give your past a good bye kiss by forgiving your ex and move on to find someone who really deserves you.
“If someone wants to be a part of your life will make an effort to be in it, Don`t reserve spaces in your heart for someone who does not make efforts to stay”.